Obstacle or Excuse?
I'd love to do this work on myself, but...
"I'm held back by money."
"I have trauma to deal with."
"I have a disability that stops me."
Look hard enough, and we all have an Achilles heel.
And in most cases, it's a perfectly valid obstacle.
Some things really are harder for some people. The world is unfair that way.
But in some cases, the obstacle becomes an excuse. Then a shield.
Not: "I can't do it."
But: "I've stopped trying."
"For a reason you could never understand because you don't suffer from it. (So leave me alone.)"
And it's true, it's certainly not up to us to decide for others whether something is an obstacle or an excuse. What do we know?
But for yourself, it's worth looking into.
Because it's easy to get caught up in the game.
The game of standing still because it's comfortable. Because you have the perfect excuse not to do the work that scares you.
And every morning, you choose the routine. And every evening, you complain – because complaining is part of the game.
The years go by, the story gets smoother. It becomes a kind of armor.
After all, if you can convince others, why wouldn't you believe it yourself?
"I'm a victim of my condition, of life, of fate. That's how it is, there's nothing to be done."
The question that gets you out of this torpor isn't:
"Is it true?"
But: "Is it what I really want?"
Because if you keep telling yourself you can't, you end up unable to.
You kill what was possible in you.
Without ever knowing what you might have done if you'd told yourself:
"I can. It might be harder for me, but I'm going to keep trying."