Controlling Is Resisting

You don't know the future.

You don't know whether your plan will work or not.

And if it works, or if it fails, you don't know whether you'll feel what you expected to feel. ("This is everything I wanted but I feel empty.")

And even if everything went as planned, you don't know the consequences of the consequences. The positive or negative occurrence that transforms over time. The blessing that becomes a tragedy, or vice versa.

So much so that it's almost presumptuous to claim we know.

Saying "I'm going to take this action" or "I'm going to go in this direction" because we imagine it will have such and such consequences in the future... is an illusion.

Control is an illusion.

You don't know what inexplicable detour, seemingly useless, will be necessary to lead you where you need to be.

The true guide seems to be instinct. Excitement.

Ignoring these calls to stubbornly push toward what's planned, toward what's reasonable, toward what's well-regarded, is to oppose the flow. To swim against the current. To resist.

And to resist is to suffer.

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