I notice strong patterns among the people I coach:
- The work we choose is often deeply tied to our parents (I've talked about this before → linked note).
- We often try to reconcile personal impulses with professional constraints, which crystallize into "I wouldn't want a certain (very serious) person to stumble onto a certain (very personal) piece of content".
- And yet, underneath it all, a strong desire to come together. Under a single banner, a single story. To stop being different people for different people.
And among the solutions I suggest for creating this unity, there's one that keeps coming up:
Dig both sides of the mountain.
Part of you wants to be accepted.
By your friends, your colleagues, society.
That part is constantly searching for a balance between who you are and what's expected of you – or what you think is expected of you.
Of course, that's necessary. No one exists in isolation. ("No man is an island".)
But in doing so, you only dig one side of the mountain.
And God knows where that will take you.
To find inner coherence, you also have to dig the other side.
That means creating a space somewhere where you can be 100% yourself.
No filter. No calculation. No image to keep up.
A place where you can pour out whatever moves you, with no shaping, no mincing words, no coherence.
Public, if you can – I sometimes suggest creating an anonymous account at first.
Then, by digging on both sides, you'll eventually find yourself at the center.
A tunnel linking what is absolutely you to what society accepts – or what it needs.
A direct line between your heart and the world.
Between your roots and the sky.
One that will become the inexhaustible source of your action.