Transitions Don't Exist

Probably one of the main illusions that prevent presence.

Transitions: this idea that the current moment doesn't count "for real," that it's merely the passage to a future we're waiting for.

For example: the journey before the destination—by subway, by plane, on foot. It's not a trip, not an experience, no: its only virtue is to get us somewhere. Nothing positive can happen, nothing is worth paying attention to, except for the bad surprises that will cause delays.

The wait before an event—a meeting, an appointment, an anticipated moment. It's already wasted time, where nothing interesting will happen. We're already in what comes next, in what must happen.

Because in reality, of course, these moments are just as much "the present" as any others.

They could be just as rich, just as vibrant, just as transformative.

Especially since sometimes the destination is disappointing. Or never comes.

That's what I tell myself when I put my son in the car to get on the highway: "Our vacation together starts now." This journey is fully part of it.

And who knows? It might be the best part.

15/10/25 presence anxiety

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